175: How to Deal With A Narcissist In Your Family

Hi, and welcome back to Reclamation Radio. I'm Dr. Kelly Brogan. And one of the things that I love about my containers is that the women I attract always have audacious questions to ask me. So it's my intention for the musings that I share on these topics to grow the permission field of what's possible and also to offer relatable reframes that can jailbreak you from your victim stories. So you might notice that I'm a bit more familiar and free when I'm answering these questions in our private spaces. So take a listen and enjoy. So here's the thing. No one is coming to turn you on. Not your husband, not the right mood, not the right moment, not good weather. Contrary to popular belief, turn on is a skill. It's not something that just happens to you. It's something you can actually learn. And when you do, you live in a world of yes, of possibilities and of sweetness. 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You drop a celebration blast in the comments across any of the platforms something you excited about proud of or loving about yourself and you start it with the phrase my blast This product is all of my skincare dreams come true so I cannot wait to get it in your hands And today audacious ask is is it possible to have a relationship with a loved one who is a textbook narcissist How can I have boundaries and a relationship with somebody like that? So this is where the, what I've spoken about in different contexts, but the maturation of boundaries is an important thing to bear in mind. because I do believe that this, you know, this big no, this very even rigid, like when you might block somebody on your phone kind of a thing, right? That this setting of a container, it's almost like your own bodyguard has shown up and he's got the door now. It's intended to confer that feeling to your system, that exhale to your system. And most of us need space. Does it need to be like a total blackout? Not for everyone. For some people, it does. From our family of origin, from our parents, for a period of time so that we can step out of the trauma fields that you're describing and begin to learn some skills, begin to develop the practice of being with ourselves, begin to value how it is that we're feeling and our emotions and connecting to the opportunities to enter through the upset begin exploring the programs there is one of the mini resets in vlp is called learning love and i have prompts in there for how you might begin to and i'm sure you've already done this but to explore you know some of what it is that you're holding right so you can connect to your mom in a very ritualized ceremonial way. You can connect to her higher self. You can communicate to her, you know, from your child that, that, you know, is mad and upset and hurt and angry and scared. And this is what she wanted, you know, and mama, can you give this to me Um still the thing is that you an adult now right So your mom owes you nothing She didn then either And loosening that that what the giving of hope is about Like loosening that testing watching like is she going to do it right now It's just, it's your child at the helm, right? It's your child driving the car because it's up to you to create the parameters of how to interact with her. Mom, if you say this shit, I'm going to hang up the phone. Mom, if you do this, I'm out, you know, just, and then you stick with it. Maybe you're doing a lot right. You're working out, you're eating decently, and still your body feels puffy, your hair feels thinner, and your skin feels creepy. You were taught to call that aging, but I am choosing not to. I don't believe that beauty is vanity. I believe it's a hobby. It's a skill. It's something that you can practice and learn at any age. So I'm hosting a free beauty backroom event for midlife women who are ready to glow up and feel leaner, stronger, and more radiant than they have perhaps in their entire life. I will be sharing exactly what I've done over the past couple of months to do just that. So if 2026 is your rebrand year, come play with me, kellybrokenmd.com forward slash BB. right it's up to you it's up to you and finding harmony either literally or in the etheric realm with one's mother i believe is a non-negotiable if you want to feel whole and you want access to your inner feminine as a man or a woman, that is essential because she is the, you know, she is the anima imprint that you will project on all the world and all the women and, you know, the medical system and whatever else that we do So resolving this integrating this so that you can come to a place of total neutrality is a great work and it is so worth it And I say that you know I would not pass go before doing a family constellation. And I would recommend both group and one-on-one family constellation for specifically this relationship because it, First of all, it changed my life on this very subject. And second of all, because it's really kind of easy, right? Like it's like a low hanging fruit and there's no downside. Like there's nothing really to consider about why not to do it. Unlike, you know, plant medicine ceremonies and so many other deep dives into the trauma space. so I believe you can organize the relationship you can develop compassion not that you don't have it but access it really you can see patterns and you can you know begin to make changes in this space that are not done in real life so to speak right and the energy that is a lot of erotic energy that is stuck in that relationship just think about it You know, we are often attuned to the electric complex, right? Like the father-daughter dynamics. There's so much Eros in our relationship to our own body, our own vital force, our own impulsivity as women, our own creativity is really choked off by resentment, bitterness, and a feeling of you should have been different. You should have loved me different or you should still love me different. So how do we get to a place where we can say, she like actually couldn't. and that's okay now. It's some of the hardest work I've ever done and I know that's true for anyone who's been in this, on this path I guess. So worth it. Thank you.