How A Parent's Stress Affects Their Child’s Nervous System | Ft. Abby De La Rosa

Was it a sex podcast or like a >> actually never seen it? >> You never saw the podcast? >> No. I saw like one or two clips come out from it, but I didn't really hear much about it. And I honestly have a rule. I never go and see myself on other people's platforms, >> okay? >> Because that's not my community. Like, I'm concerned about what my community has to say. So, I'll read my comments and engage there. But if I came on your podcast, I would never visit it. Okay? >> Cuz I'm like, whatever your friend said about me, that's not my business. So I I by rule don't do that. >> Okay. Okay.

Here’s why I stopped reading 80% of comments after becoming a parent. Emotional leakage happens when a parent enters fight or flight and their child joins them, not because the child sees danger, but because they feel it: rapid heart rate, shallow breathing, elevated cortisol. The nervous system reads the signal before the brain can make sense of it. The body does not distinguish well between social threats and physical threats. So if I read a harsh comment online it can activate the same physiological stress response as something happening right in front of me. And if I carry that activation into an interaction with my child, their nervous system can begin to mirror mine. Over time, their body learns to prepare for danger even when none is visible or explainable. This clip is from my interview with Abby De La Rosa that I spliced into this week’s episode of Lovers By Shan with #drannalembke, where we discuss social media, addiction, and nervous system impact. ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com