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Analysis Summary
Worth Noting
Positive elements
- This video provides a concise introduction to the 'de-centering' movement and offers a perspective on finding self-worth outside of romantic validation.
Be Aware
Cautionary elements
- The use of 'lifestyle porn' (expats in Tulum) to represent a psychological concept may lead viewers to conflate mental boundaries with financial or geographic escapism.
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Transcript
I know so many incredible women who are adopting this and feeling this and having a love life and being super proud of themsel and maybe they're not necessarily asexual or closed off to the idea, but they're also not searching for it. >> And that sense of dignity being kind of the grounding principle that informs whether or not they even allow something to take up their time because they have many other things that they love that their time is filled with. I found myself in this huge community of expats, you know, uh, women of color who have basically left the US and their primary residence is Tulum. >> Love that for them. >> Oh, child, their lives are lit. Okay. Like one of my girlfriends, Tamiko, she rolls around on a pink ATV. Like that's her primary like source of transportation. And you know, it's just like they've curated the lives that they want for themselves. They, you know, they were in the rat race here in America. You know, they had the big, you know, the big houses, fancy cars, marriage, kids, the whole nine. And they were like, "This is not fulfilling. This ain't it." And they just basically started the slow progression towards this being their lives. And now they're all there. And I was just like, I want to come. I can't. I got to figure this out how I can be here regularly. Um, and I just thought it was like so incredible to just watch. It's the desentering of men. That's really what it is on a large scale. Women have desentered men and really started to focus and enjoy their lives without feeling like there's a there's a penance for it or you're going to get the lonely cat lady labeled. Don't threaten me with a good time. I want a house full of [ __ ] cats.
Video description
The de-centering of men doesn’t mean rejecting love. For many women, it simply means their lives are already full.Full of friendships, work they care about, experiences they enjoy, and things that bring them joy. And from that place, partnership becomes something you welcome… not something you build your life around. The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts. ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com