Ekane & Girl lalala - the GLORIFICATION of DV on SOCIAL MEDIA!

Please no. [ __ ] I need help. Please, I need help. >> 911. What is the address to your emergency? >> Hello. >> Hello. Can you hear me? Punch me. Who cares? Been taking punches since I was 18 years old. I'm 24. Hello. Punched me, dragged me out the house. [music] Was breaking my phones while I was on the ground. Well, this phone. >> You leave, you stay, you get [music] beat on. You leave, you stay, you get your head get put hands and feet put on. You leave, you stay, you get [ __ ] poured up your nose and get drowned in your driver's seat. >> Y'all thought I was capping in it. Everybody need to be getting right. Sorry. Okay, y'all. This day three of surviving a wig snatcher cuz Lord knows he get down so he don't play y'all. Like, how long y'all think Pinky going to stay in? Cuz Lord knows that boy gets down, he not playing, y'all. So, we just got done filming a YouTube video. So, y'all cannot say we've been going hard for y'all. But during the YouTube video, Dodto broke my glasses. Smacked my glasses off my face. So if y'all want us to drop the video, make sure y'all could eat. She got out of jail. She broke up with him. She heard what he was saying while on TikTok while she was in jail and she wanted a better life and a new life. He couldn't accept it. A trans that made him come out gay tried to break up with him. He's like, "Hold on. You're my first. You're breaking up with me and it's hard for me to go back straight because I went public with you. Domestic violence doesn't start with bruises. It starts way before that. It starts with things being laughed off, with jokes that doesn't sit right with being brushed aside, with public embarrassment being called love and with an audience that's been taught to see chaos as entertainment. Social media has changed how abuse shows up. It's no longer always hidden behind closers. It's filmed, it's posted, it's argued over in comment sections, it gets turned into clips and views. And just to be clear, abuse is abuse. Whether it happens in private or in public, being hidden doesn't make it less serious. And being online, doesn't make it okay. Domestic violence is never justified. The issue is that when people see it over and over, especially without anyone calling it out, it starts to feel normal. What should make people stop and worry turns into content. What should feel scary becomes a trend. Over the past few years, influencers like Ekane, they have grown big followings by showing unstable and unhealthy relationships online. >> I want you to be as mad as you was in that house when you seen me with that [ __ ] so I can have another swollen mark on my face. >> You don't got no mark. >> I Yes, I do. >> Yes, I do. >> Quit touching me. >> Oh, damn. The police. >> I don't give a [ __ ] I'm supposed to be scared. You think I'm going to protect you if they ask me about something? >> I'm out. >> I wouldn't give a [ __ ] [ __ ] I'm gone. >> Bye. Thank you. And when they circle back, I'll be answering any questions, honey. [ __ ] wrong with him? [snorts] I could be a stalker. I'll be that immediately. I'll be that after what just happened to me. This shouting gets called passion. The control gets called loyalty and the pain gets dressed up as ride or die love. And that doesn't just stay on the screen. People are watching and learning, especially young boys who are still figuring out what love is supposed to look like. When harmful behavior is shown again and again as normal or forgivable, it changes how people see danger. And that's why girl Lala's story matters. She openly admired. She shared that she was in an abusive relationship herself and she was later killed by her boyfriend. >> Why you so worried about me and my phone? >> All right. >> All right. >> When it's your turn, it's your turn. >> Ah, well, no. I don't care about none of that. I don't care about none of that. >> I'll be starting. But no, that's not why I start this video, y'all. I am gagged by EK started following me. Everybody that knows me knows that I love Eane. She's my favorite Tik Tok. Like, I am gag bae. I'm going to get up. Stop. [laughter] >> I'm telling you he can't follow me. You do too much. But y'all, I am gay. If he can't follow me, like I'm about to bite my ankles. Her story isn't about weakness. It isn't about bad decisions. It's a warning. A warning about what can happen when unhealthy relationships are constantly excused or cheered online. When people see abuse happening in public and no one challenges it, you can start to believe that pain is just part of love. >> Sorry. This is not about drama or pointing fingers. I'm not here to point fingers. I'm just here to tell the truth. Social media has helped many things feel normal that should never be normal. I rise just shows how easily abuse can be turned into entertainment. Gerala's death shows the real cost of that. Abuse is not love. Abuse is not passion and it should never be defended, shared or treated like content. That being said, let me introduce myself. Hi guys, my name is Joel. Kindly like, share, subscribe, and if you love this video, I would love to see you next time and next week. That being said, let's get straight into this video. A viral star built on toxic drama. Hi guys, it is January 2nd, 2026. You can see often known by the handle Big Kane, is one of Tik Tok's most talked about creators, mostly because of how much of her personal life she puts online. She's in her mid20ies and has built a following of millions by sharing her relationship drama in real time. From the start, her content has always been loud, emotional, and very unfiltered. She began posting around 2020 and quickly realized that chaos pulled in views even after having like multiple accounts banned. She kept coming back and rebuilding her audience, which only added to her notoriety. What really set Iain apart was how she turned her relationship into something that people watched like a show. Her on and off relationship with her boyfriend Chris, who is also the father of her two children, played out publicly in front of thousands of viewers. Breakups, screaming matches, emotional breakdowns, and reunions were all broadcast live to billions and millions of people. People see knowing things would probably go left and that unpredictability became part of the appeal. Even people who criticized her admitted that the content was so hard to look away from. Hey, >> I just cooked that driver at somewhere to go. >> I just cooked that right. Go upstairs. Thank you. Damn weird ass. >> I didn't even I was just saying weird. >> I wasn't I didn't say that. Get there. >> Did I look how you act in front of your kids? Relax. >> You >> Why you just throw the food I just made? >> Where? Where? Do I got a Do I got to go to >> Oh my god. I don't got to go. >> But I You got to go to now. >> You said I actually Quiet. Why are you trying to do this in front of my kids? What are you doing? >> You okay? >> You okay? M lay down. Okay. >> I know. It's okay. That's >> Over time, that chaos became her brand. The messiness was framed as being real. The arguments were framed as passion. The instability was framed as deep love, but a lot of what people were watching wasn't just drama. It was toxic behavior being treated like entertainment. And the more extreme things got, the more attention it pulled in. One of the most troubling parts of Ein's content is how violence and abuse were treated like normal relationship problems. She and Chris had been seen again aggressively getting physical and destroying each other's properties on live streams. There was an incident where she allegedly damaged his car and he later trashed her home causing serious damage. >> Okay. First deal of damage. Thanks Eane from you hitting my tire. This one you This from you smacking my tire. Almost threw me off the road. We We going like 40 miles per hour. You smacked the side of my car. Made me spin out. made me spin a do a whole [ __ ] turn out and then smack the side when I'm spinning out. Thanks for that tire bent in. [clears throat] This is my back tire. This you smacking my tire. Oh my gas. Oh yeah. Thanks for this, Erica. I don't know. I don't know what the hell going on here. Thanks for this. Thanks for this though. Thanks for Thanks for Thanks for [ __ ] my [ __ ] up. Yeah. Thanks for Thanks for these, though. Oh. Oh, yeah. Shout out to you. All this right here. Yeah. Thanks to you. All these dents. My doorbell don't even open. I had to look. I had to bend my door back to open my door up. Yeah. Thanks. Thanks for you knocking the frame off my car. It's my whole bottom frame knocked off my car. Thanks, Erica. You're the best. Shout out to you and your bins, though. Oh, but wait, there's more. Oh, yeah. All these dents. Yeah. Shout out to you, bro. Back door don't open. Look. Oh, yeah. Thanks. Thanks, girl. Shout out to you. Oh yeah. Thanks, Erica. I appreciate you. I appreciate you. I appreciate you. Shout out to you. Look at this [ __ ] Getting caught on the bag and [ __ ] So, why you give her flowers and stuff? Exactly. Why did I give her flowers and stuff? Exactly. I could have I could have paid for my car to get >> right. The new TV. What the TV do? TV like what I do. You just was watching me. We just was cooling. All right. Give me about 3 4 days depending on shipping. All right. Let me get my words together cuz you know I actually have a lawyer. I'm like you bum ass [ __ ] I actually have a lawyer that told me what the [ __ ] I can to case that. Baby daddy broke my mirror off my car in my Dodge Journey. [ __ ] a mirror. He broke the whole thing off my car before I touch anything on his car. Baby daddy broke everything off my car before I touch anything off his car. I bagged up. I waited till we pulled out. [music] I followed him up 44th Street. came to 44th from Braden Cameron to show you which will be in court when court come up. All this is public information. Christopher Douglas Smith senior if you want to look up the court cases. Christopher Douglas Smith senior smash into Erica. Smash into Erica's car on the right side. Made her slip around the whole median and I total my car. But he want to get on live and say this and that. Let me tell y'all something is I have traffic camera evidence [laughter] of everything. I only couldn't get on live until I called my lawyer cuz my lawyer is on 24-hour call cuz I can afford that. Stop it with me. I couldn't wait till I could get back on live. Bro, >> I'm [ __ ] up. I couldn't wait till I could get back on live and tell [ __ ] my business. For real. It's 24-hour surveillance. Cameras on 44 from Breton. Stop it. [laughter] I can't wait. My phone is broke, D. It's just broke. I can't get into it. I can't get into it. I can't get a new phone until I get into my iCloud and turn off my iPhone. I can't get into my iCloud cuz I forgot my password and it won't let me use my email. I can't use my number cuz obviously I got a phone and I don't remember my debit card that was on my Apple Pay cuz that was a old debit card. So, I have to wait 25 days. They said to verify my identity. I'm locked out of Instagram, Facebook, Messenger, everything except Twitter. I'm locked out all them accounts. So, that's that. I've been living life, reading books, bored at work without no phone for sure. But in the little minutes, cuz they've been having me on fast machine. So, in the little minutes where I can read a little excerpt of a book, I read the book. Other than that, we just been chilling. You get the vibe from me. So, yeah. Thanks, bae. And it's no same car. I've been to the Apple store. I've been to the Apple store. I've been to Verizon. I've been to the bank. The bank can't tell me a old debit card. Verizon can't give me a new phone because I don't have a iCloud. Apple can't get my iCloud because everything I just told y'all. I don't have a SIM card because I have an iPhone 14 Pro Max. They don't have SIM cards. They have ESIMs. So yeah, that's me. Instead of these moments being treated as serious warning signs, they were shared online just like every other episode. Akane would often go live afterwards, sometimes laughing it off or like just minimizing what happened, which only made it seem acceptable to her audience. Punch me. Who cares? Been taking punches since I was 18 years old. I'm 24. Hello. Punched me. Dragged me out the house. Was breaking my phones while I was on the ground. Well, this phone cuz my other phone was in the car because it was dead. This phone was in the car cuz it was dead. He kept slamming this on the ground. Okay, that's cool. Ran to the neighbor house. They was recording. Thankfully, if you was recording, if you was that girl that was recording on the porch, please send me the footage. I need it. Please send me the footage, honey. I need all the evidence I can get, honey. I need all the evidence I can get. Thank you. Please send it to >> She was like, "It seems like you emotionally abuse him and he is reacting to my emotional abuse with physical abuse." And I was like, "But sometimes I don't be emotionally abusive." It's like, "Yeah, I know you say that, but sometimes your attitude, you may not realize how much of an attitude you have and all this other stuff." So it's like because [clears throat] you get what I'm saying like I'm like hold on. [snorts] Then I got to thinking I'm like okay some some days I did emotionally abuse him. I did. I will admit that I do tend to get mad and angry and say some things I shouldn't say. Well that's basically just what she said, you know. So I think that honestly but other than natural you not this is a waste of $200 a week. Got to be honest. Truth hurts. No, that didn't hurt me at all. That [snorts] didn't hurt me at all. Not when a [ __ ] spit in your face. I don't think I could ever come back from that. And I always said that, too. Like when he spit on me. Oh y'all, he first spit on me when I was like probably 20 years old. And like I said, my mom always told me, "Don't anybody spit on you." That's like the bottom disrespect, the lowlevel disrespect. And I took a m like, "Yo, I just love my baby daddy." bag. And then too, at the time, I was working and I didn't like I couldn't get my kids up early in the morning every day at 5:00 a.m. I couldn't get two two kids. I had two kids that are two. I just couldn't get them up every day when I had to go to work at 5:30, then drive all the way to the other side of town and drop them off to my sister and drive all the way back to other side town to go to work. Absolutely not. So, I just kept taking my BD bag cuz it's like my BD was the inhome parent. Like, he would stay home while I was at work, watch the kids, and that just made it much more easier for me to pay the bills. So yeah, I just always take back cuz I have to go to work. I have [ __ ] to do >> and it's kind of hard to be driving around and [ __ ] So yeah, you got to go through it to get through it, man. You got to go through it to get through it. People online started calling them the definition of a toxic couple. And instead of that label stopping anything, it almost became part of the appeal. Eane and Chris are a great example of he may have love for her, but the spirit attached to him wants her head in a jar on his nightstand. For real. So, she came on here and said that he allegedly graded her and may have used objects. Now, to look at that spiritually, they done been intimate 100,000 times by now. But it's the spiritual aspect of it. Like, I'm going to take this from you. Like, you don't get no say. uh you done cheated so we gonna do it how I want to do it. A vengeful spiteful spirit and that spirit always tells the truth. So she was saying that he was saying like, "Oh, it was the devil that made me do it." He's not lying. It's that demon. She is too deep into survival mode that her spirit doesn't understand the danger she's in. She knows the danger she's in. She doesn't understand it. Cuz if she truly understood it, she wouldn't be in it. And she's so used to being that close to danger. It feels normal. It feels comfortable, but it's still dangerous. And it really becomes a spiritual form of torment when you know better, but God hasn't given you understanding. So, it's like standing outside of your body, watching you do something you know you're not supposed to do, and then feeling the conviction and guilt after you do it or keep doing it. The spirit that is attached to him doesn't do anything but drain energy, stress her out, stress her kids, and bring death and destruction, death to peace, death to stillness, death to her relationship with God or physical death. And then in this live, she it's like he was angry and then he started playing in her hair. It's like a micro form of aggression. Like I don't even know how to put it. like him playing with her hair or grabbing her hair is aggressive, but it it's seemingly not if you aren't aware. And Jesus says that perfect love casts out fear. So whether it's fear of being alone, fear that nobody wants her to like she's not too far gone. I really pray that she knows she's not too far gone, that God will have a man for her if that's what's you know in if that's what she's dreaming about. But the only way for this to end is when she seek Jesus. And it would have to be this spirit would have to be driven out by love and grace, but love and grace for herself, for her children, for the vessel that God gave her. Not like mercy and grace and love for him would be forgiving him and then cutting him off. Like this is a very good example in line with the enemy. Like I'm telling you, I pray she and her children get out of it cuz this spirit feeds on this and and goes for generations and generations until Jesus literally steps in and has somebody break it. So I pray like it's her that breaks it. Each blow up led to more views, more comments, and more attention. The line between concern and entertainment just disappeared. People weren't just watching a relationship fall apart. They were being trained to see that kind of behavior as normal. So, this is literally the day after he did all that [ __ ] January 2nd, cuz I went to the hospital to go get checked out. Um, just making sure everything was okay because some some of my body parts felt weird as hell. I ain't going to cap. Like, he wasn't just sticking his, you know, what in me. He was, you know what I'm saying? It was more [ __ ] that he was doing to me. So, I went to go get checked out because my [ __ ] stomach was hurting real bad. Like, I don't know what the [ __ ] was up there, you know? So, boom. January 2nd. Boom. I had got there. Boom. Boom. Boom. This was 6:00 p.m. when he had just woke up. He had just woke up. He had hopped on live. This when I had left his crib after that video I showed y'all when my face was swollen and he was laying behind me butt naked. That's when he had just butt all day cuz I was at the hospital and I was like talking to Brooklyn and my family and [ __ ] and I end up booking a room and going to get my son so we could just chill at the room together. Where you at? Where you at? Just calling me. Just call. This is him just blowing my phone. I sent him the videos on my face and I sent him a long message. I said, "I have a puff I have a popped blood vessel in my eye. I have a ruptured milk duck in my boob. I have to have surgery. A piece of my brace was stuck in my lip. Don't get on live saying we fought. You beat my ass. I did not hit you and continuously hurt me on GTA. This is just a message I'm sending to him." You get what I'm saying? I sent him the videos on my face just so he could see like this is what you did cuz I know he probably didn't remember cuz he was drunk as hell. So I was just sending him videos like this is what you did. Like I know you going to get on live and act like you don't know what you just did to me and I know you going to swear it's the devil and oh I was drunk bae I don't remember. This person didn't stop at her relationship. Akin has also faced backlash for other behavior including controversial comments and stunts that many people just felt cross clear lines. One of the clearest example was a target live stream prank in early 2025 with a YouTuber called the Shay Frost which we are definitely going to talk about shortly later on in this video. What is meant to be a joke came across to many people as uncomfortable and inappropriate with some people calling it outright harassment. [music] Again, serious behavior was brushed off as content. I rise just shows how easily harmful behavior can be rewarded online. When chaos brings views and views brings money, there is very little incentive to stop. And when millions of people are watching, liking, and sharing, it sends a very dangerous message about what love, conflict, and boundaries are supposed to look like. Now, I normally stay clear from the Eane and Chris drama, right? Cuz I feel like it's just an ongoing cycle with them. He ends up assaulting her. She's assault him. They go back and forth and then they back together laughing, right? Yelling at the comments. But with the events that happened January 2nd, I do not feel like this is something that we should be normalized. Granted, she is the only person that can press charges on him, which she has done, but I feel like this is something that needs to be talked about, especially with him admitting that he done the stuff that she said he did to her. Now, this is a voice recording of EK that she sent to him after the incident. >> Wait, one more thing, too. All your friends was there. All of your friends heard me screaming. All of your friends heard me crying knowing my kids were out there knowing it was other kids out there. Yeah, Germ came to the door a couple times to try and get you to come out, but for it to be three grown ass men out there at your house and a woman and kids hearing me going through this, I get it. Not jumping into relationship problems. But that's crazy. That is nuts. I promise you it would have took all y'all to get me off Trip if I heard Trip putting his hands on his girl and all the kids and everybody else outside the room. And I'm going to play you the clip of him admitting this. >> I took advantage of my baby mama being a weak woman and that [ __ ] is not cool, bro. Just because I'm a man and I'm stronger than her does not make it right. about a case for yourself. >> I'm about to build a case for myself, >> bro. I'm [ __ ] up, bro. I did bogus [ __ ] bro. I did her so wrong, bro. I did her so [ __ ] wrong, bro. Like, I wasn't like I wasn't like beating my baby mama ass, bro. We We was doing adult things and I was a little extra. And I might have been a little mad that you was out all night. Calling me. He was calling me. Why you calling me? Even his friend said in the background, you're building a case on yourself. You literally just admitted that you went too far in that act. And when you go too far in that act, what is that called? And since this has taken place, Chris has continuously to try to break into Eane house. Eane is not letting a man in the house. And every time he comes to the house, she calls the police. Eane also says the way she was screaming, she would have never let that happen if she heard another person in the room struggling like that. And this is another clip of him after the incident. You can clearly hear that he's not taking any of this serious. my house yesterday. Everybody talking about I broke her window. I broke her window. The [ __ ] window being broke. I just knocked over some glass that was already broke. She called the police. I was like, "Fuck, let me get up out of here." Ran to my car, tried to pull up. My moving like I'm talking about, bro, I was going like 4 in every [ __ ] When I say this is so disgusting and like I mentioned earlier in the video, I normally steer clear to stuff like that, but this right here is something that we cannot normalize. Again, I do understand that Eane is the only person that can put a stop to this by filing charges, putting that man in jail, but I do think this is something important to discuss because this is how far things can go and then it's probably not even over with. So, you never even know how far this is really going to go. That's the scary part. She also went on live on Twitch, I believe, and did the timeline of all the things that he's done to her since she was a teenager. And one thing about Eane is that she knows she is allowing disrespect. She knows that she loves him more than herself, her word. So, she knows these things. It's just for some reason, she cannot walk away completely. This is crazy. What do y'all think about this? and make sure y'all follow that YouTube skin cooling 2.0. >> Now, let's talk about the DA Frost incident because yeah, I'm going to speak about when harassment becomes content because during a live stream inside a Target store, the sha Frost approached a woman who clearly did not know him and started making sexual comments towards her. He played it off as a prank while it filmed and encouraged the whole situation. In the clip that later spread online, he told the woman that she looked good enough for him to sleep with her and asked for her number all while she was on the phone with her mother. She tried to brush him off, but the thing is he kept going. Even after a half apology, he didn't shut up. Things only ended when um her brother stepped in and confronted him. Once they were out, Duch Frost and I revealed that it was supposedly just a prank being live streamed. That explanation does not land because the brother continuously told them to stop and [music] to take them off like because again he was clearly unimpressed and rightfully angry. But what they treated as a joke was a woman being cornered, embarrassed and disrespected in public. The backlash was immediate. People across social media, they called it out for what it was. And what was it? It was literally harassment dressed up as content. A lot of the criticism focused on a because as a woman and as a mother of a daughter or as a mother to a daughter, people were shocked that she stood by laughing instead of shutting it down. One comment that stuck with many people as how she would feel if someone spoke to her child that way. By staying silent and treating the moment like entertainment, sent the message that making a woman uncomfortable is fine as long as it pulled in views. There were real consequences because the shape first was banned from Twitch again after the incident and Ekane faced heavy criticism too, but she largely brush it off and avoided taking real responsibility. So again, what does this moment expose? This moment in my own opinion just exposes a bigger problem. When influencers treat harassment like a joke or a skit, it teaches their audience to do the same. It blurs the line between right and wrong. And in a Kane's world, nothing seems off limits, brings attention, and that mindset just doesn't stay online. It shapes how people think about boundaries, concerns, and respect. That kind of normalization doesn't appear when the live stream ends. Carries real consequences, especially for people watching who are still learn what behavior is acceptable. Now, let's speak about girl Lala. This is a tragic consequence of romanticizing abuse. Dala was only 21, but she already had the kind of presence that people gravitate towards. She was funny, expressive, confident, and visibly proud of who she was. Her wigs were always snatched. They were always laid. Her energy was loud and joyful. And her phrase, I'm feeling like girl Lala, took off as a viral sound that people used when they were feeling themselves. I look so [ __ ] la my set. Yeah. Put your hands together three times and clap. Clap that thing. I'm real gala. What happened? Gala again, she's a she was a trans woman. On the surface, she looked like someone coming into her own. She was very open online. and she was open about her life, her relationship, about who she admired. She interacted with Eane's content often and made it clear that she was a big fan of Ekane and that matters because the same messy chaotic relationship dynamics that people were watching for entertainment elsewhere were playing out in her own life too. Girlala was in a long-term abusive relationship and over time that abuse started to look normal to her. It was not hidden, it was not whispered about, it was openly shown and brushed off. And the same way toxic relationships are often framed online as just messy love or intense passion, she seemed to treat her own situation in that same way. >> Yeah, he's starting. >> I'm holding it up. He's trying to start. So good. It's about to be your next new favorite. [screaming] >> Stop. Uhuh. >> Why? Why that's in your hand? No [laughter] stab sit down. >> Go sit down. >> No. >> I'm telling you, bro. >> No. >> To do, bro. But you know what? It's It's just fun to see like you touching, >> bro. Go sit down. >> What you want to talk about? Why they still hand? How you trying to talk? >> No. And you told me last time you was supposed to put it down. No, you ain't trying to talk about nothing. >> [ __ ] You ain't talk about nothing. >> Nothing. Nathaniel. >> Y'all pray for me, >> bro. It's one sto in the morning. Why is I'm outside at McDonald's sitting on the floor? Cuz a [ __ ] decided to pop up to my friend house trying to kill me. Like, bro, I don't know what my mama don't bless me with, but fat one doing it thing cuz it got to like literally outside my friend house, like two miles away trying to get to me. Like this boy is cuckoo for cocoa puffs. Like, bro, he already done slapped me in my mouth at night. yesterday put a knot on my face like it could go down like I can't even see but it was like right here face was like where did the cut at scratch me in my face right here I don't know if y'all can see it like right there bro the boy is crazy like look at my arms cuz of him knees bro and I tell you I'm done I'm done like it's over with Like I promise you it's over with. It's time for me to give like Miami back outside cuz Miami back outside was like 40 inch lace outside every week just pop her [ __ ] Like I've been laying y'all see I don't go nowhere. I don't be at park. I don't be on TikTok. I be on I start that get back after with y'all cuz y like the only thing I got cuz I don't go outside or nothing. But boy the boy is crazy. Like never again. Why I talking I'm outside? I like the hobo. Anybody come through the drivethru. I'm just sitting on the floor like >> there were arguments in public. There were fights on live streams. There were tension that anyone watching could feel and so many people noticed. People commented, but concern got drowned out by familiarity. She would show up on camera with injuries and make light of them. In one resurfaced clip, she had a cut on her nose and a black eye. And when someone asked her what happened, she shrugged and said that they always fight. There was no urgency. There was no alarm. It was just an acceptance by girl Lala and the people who watch her. And violence wasn't being treated like something dangerous. It was treated like a regular part of being in a relationship. >> Okay y'all, this day three of surviving a wit snatcher cuz Lord knows he get down so he don't play y'all. Like how long y'all think Pinky going to stay in? Because Lord knows that boy gets down, he not playing. What y'all doing? I'm bored y'all. Give me something to talk about. I'm probably go live like 8 9 10:00. Probably like 9 10:00 for sure. Not 8:00. I'm probably down to y'all. But 9:00 I'mma probably go live. So y'all need to join. But Lord knows. I know if I go see him tonight, he probably try to take my wig off cuz when I go to this B&B tonight, I'm showing my tail like like a coming out of hibernation. Boy, I'm telling you, he going to be so mad. I'm showing out. I'm going have to hide him from everybody Instagram who going to be there because he ain't going to be texting my phone, talking crazy. I ain't got time for that, baby. I'm just trying to have a good time. I'm here for a good time, not a long time. And I ain't trying to have some in my ear. What y'all doing though? Let me know. Woke up to one [ __ ] lash hair a mess. Glue off. This is a mess. I need to call Tracy. No shade. Spend a [ __ ] day with me. So y'all, so right now I'm going to go put my nails on at 1975 and get this head done today. My makeup done. So I'mma call you when I get to 1975, y'all. So I made it to 1975 nails. I couldn't apply my [ __ ] nails cuz they don't apply nails no more. You only got to get theirs. I'm aggravated as [ __ ] but I guess I'm going just do me some friendships today. Yeah. So, with the content that I'm doing today, I told him I want to put my own nails on. So, I just bought the glue for the dollar and I'm put my own um nails on, y'all. So, I'm at my makeup appointment, y'all. So, my makeup is done. I lost two nails, but I'm put it back on and my hair appointment. I'm going to go to my hair appointment right now. So, all you [ __ ] be my hair makeup done first. Get your makeup done first. And then you go to your hair appointment. Is it my braid down? >> Yes, y'all. I'm in the show. I'm in the show. Okay, y'all. So, wig from color her beauty. Honestly, the style was eating. The style eat like Tracy always turn it down. Y'all know. But it's just like this part I don't like about the wig. The wig is thin in the front and but honestly, I don't know how I feel about this one. So, I'm going to call y'all back. Okay y'all. So if y'all in lot of your legs, make sure y'all shop with Jador Fancy next to my girl her right here. She kind of te and this is the shot. Mhm. My girl got all the pieces for the Lord. Make sure y'all come sh. One of the most uncertain examples of how far this normalization went came from a couple strength videos that resurfaced after her death. So basically in it, girl Lala and her partner Shenoid White Jr., know they took turns jokingly impersonating each other. When it was her turn to act as him, she said, "I'm the weak snatcher. Of course, when my girlfriend makes me mad, I bite her." >> I'm girl up. Of course, I can't follow simple instructions. >> I'm the weak snatcher. Of course, I want my girlfriend looking like this 24/7. So, no other [ __ ] won't try to talk to her. >> I'm LA. Of course, I always think I'm right, even when I know I don't know what the [ __ ] I'm talking about. I'm the weird snatcher. Of course, when my girl tell me she going somewhere, I try to make her stay home. >> I'm girl la. Of course, I'mma find every reason to go outside. I'm the wig snatcher. Of course, I want to eat my girlfriend food after I finish my whole plate. >> I'm girl. Of course, I rather entertain Tik Tok than to make sure that my man is happy. >> I'm the WA. Of course, when my girlfriend make me mad, I have to bite her. I'm girl la. Of course I rather listen to my friends than listen to my man cuz obviously they know more than I do. >> Of course I got to eat [music] five times a day. >> I'm girl la. Of course I spend money on dumb stuff. I'm the snatcher. Of course I wake up every morning without brushing my teeth. That's I'm girl la. Of course I just be capping for TikTok cuz who don't brush their teeth? You use my toothbrush this morning. This pump messy. I'm the wig snatcher. Of course, my girlfriend got to pay me the pay like last night. >> Oh my. >> So, basically, she called her boyfriend wig snatcher. Not in a way that your wig is snatched and laid. Literally snatcher. When you're fighting, snatch the wig off the scalp. That is violent. And then she lifted her arm and showed a deep bite mark. They both laughed. A violent [music] act was turned into a punchline. Proof of abuse was shared openly, framed as humor. That video is so hard to watch because it just shows how wafted things had become. This was not denial. It was literally full-on participation. And I don't understand how you claim to love someone but raise your hand on them. Like that does not make sense to me. Like why would you hurt who you claim to love? Make it make sense. Abuse had been folded into jokes, trends, and content to the point where it didn't even register something to escape from anymore. It had been normalized not just by the internet but by the relationship itself that normalization had deadly consequences because two months ago on November 14, 2025 after an argument in a car laala was shot multiple times and killed. She was found in the passenger seat and pronounced dead at the scene. Her boyfriend later claimed that it was an accident, but evidence told a different story. He had since been charged with firstderee murder and is awaiting trial. Obviously, news of her death sent um shock waves through social media, especially among people who had watched her content for years. Gala's story is not about blaming her. I'm not blaming her. It's about what happens when abuse is constantly softened or joked about or turned into something that people scroll past. I think this whole situation with Girl Alla being unalied by her boyfriend is going to blow up into being a much bigger situation than just self-defense or not. So, a Tik Tok influencer that goes by the name of Girl Alla was analyzed by her boyfriend last night. A lot of people are speculating that it was jealousy and my job. What a lot of people don't know is she was a transgender woman. Her fan base consisted of a lot of different groups, especially the LGBTQ plus community. Now, where this whole situation is getting tricky is that there have been plenty of signs and plenty situations before where, you know, she would have marks on her, she would have bruises, a lot of signs of abuse to the point she would have to go to the extent of getting them covered up, before being able to do content, before being able to go out and do like hostings and things of that nature. But what a lot of people are trying to argue in this situation specifically is that it was self-defense on his end. Nothing more, nothing less. As I'm reading comments, I'm finding out that the reason that people are trying to argue this is because respectfully, at the end of the day, they feel like whether or not she was a transgender woman, it all boils down to male versus male. So, a lot of people are believing the story of him saying that it was self-defense because at the end of the day, him versus him. But nonetheless, last time I checked, domestic violence does not have a gender. It doesn't matter who you want to go by, who versus who, who was involved. At the end of the day, getting alive is getting unal alive. So, unless there's more to the story, which we don't know yet, then this might pan out to be exactly what it looks like. He was jealous and unal alived his girlfriend. A lot of people are arguing that at the end of the day, they both know what type of life they were living and what they were involved with. But, nonetheless, I don't see how people are really trying to correlate what happened to her to what they were doing in the relationship as far as her being a trans woman, him being a part of the community. Like, it's just not clicking to me why that has anything to do with the fact that healed her. You know what I mean? Now, he was arrested and charged, but if he can get people to think how a lot of other people are thinking, then honestly, he might get off on self-defense. I have seen it plenty of times before. At the end of the day, it's very sad because regardless of anything else or if there is a full story, y'all got to understand that a lot of times in situations like this, especially in relationships, it really do be jealousy. Like, have y'all seen Snapped? Plenty of examples. And it's just sad because this is somebody's life we're talking about. It ain't just a little quick beatd down. It ain't a little exposing on the internet. This is literally like this soul this this whole gone like no longer walking on the earth. What could drive you to do something like that? >> Her openness should have been a red flag, a movement for intervention, not something that should be taken as entertainment. And as a black transgender woman, she was even much more vulnerable to violence and less likely to be protected or taken seriously when something was wrong. >> I don't miss this [ __ ] I don't like this [ __ ] and I hate everything about this [ __ ] And that's the God honest truth. I just deal with her because I there's no there's no escape for me. There's nowhere for me to go. What woman is gonna want me? I don't want to deal with all I ask for real. When we happy, we happy. But that >> her life is a painful reminder that domestic violence doesn't always look like silence or secrecy. Sometimes it's loud. Sometimes it's public. Sometimes it's smiling on camera. But none of that makes it less dangerous. >> She got out of jail. She broke up with him. She heard what he was saying while on TikTok while she was in jail and she wanted a better life and a new life. He couldn't accept it. A trans that made him come out gay. Try to break up with him. He's like, "Hold on. You're my first. You're breaking up with me and it's hard for me to go back straight because I went public with you." Girl was out for two weeks and he used to drive at the family friend house. So at this time, Girl was at a family friend house when she got out of jail. He used to drive up and down, stalk girl Allah, be at the house when she got out of jail. Girl didn't want nobody to know she was out of jail. This is what a family friend told me. And [music] I read police paperwork. I can't show it, but I read it. 3 months ago, probably like 4 months ago, he shot girl already and she got grazed from the bullet. She didn't want nobody to know. Nobody didn't know about that situation. There's a police report of that. He already shot her before, but got graved. the day of the crime scene. It was about approximately 6:00 p.m. Dispatch was called from him, the shooter, her boyfriend. He called the police. He didn't leave the scene. He stayed on the scene. He didn't call self-defense, any of that. I was told from a friend that was at the house, Girl Alla was with at the time that she was living with where she was staying at. He picked Girl Alla up around 3 to 5:00. They came back probably 2 hours later. When they came back, they were sitting in the car together in >> 911. >> [ __ ] I need help. Please, I need help. >> 911. What is the address to your emergency? Hello. >> Hello. Can you hear me? >> Yes. I don't know the address, bro. Just check. Just check, please. >> Okay. Are you at a house, apartment, or business? >> Yes, I'm at a house. I'm at a house. >> Okay. Tell me exactly what happened. Tell them exactly what happened. >> Okay. We have a call in for service. Who's >> Come on. >> All right. Thank you. >> Stay on the line with me. >> Hello. >> Yes. This is 911. Stay on the phone with me. Okay. >> Yes. Hello. This is not This is not >> Get here. Hurry up and get here. Who's coming behind me and get here? >> Stay on the line with me. I need you to stay on the line with me. Okay. >> On the way. I need you to stay on the line with me. Okay. Stay on the ground. Do not disconnect. >> Are you able to give me a good address? Stay on the line with me. Okay. >> All right. >> They're coming as quickly as they can. Okay. They're coming. They're on the way. Me and you talking is not delaying them. Stay on the phone with me. Stay online with me. >> Abuse is not love. Abuse is not content. And it should never be treated like something normal. Now, let's speak about how social media normalizes abuse and why it must stop. >> I didn't mean to make more mad. >> Huh? >> I didn't mean to make more mad. >> You didn't make it more mad. You didn't make him mad. Yes, I did. No, you did. >> Why do you think you made him all mad? >> Because I Because I tell him to stop. >> So, stop yelling. That's okay. He would get mad at you. >> Your papa won't get mad at you. [snorts] >> He was mad at me. Girl, I don't think Papa can ever get mad at you. Girl, you know you his princess, honey. You know Zaza can't do no wrong, queen. You know that. He not mad at you. He just mad at me. >> [snorts] >> My dad >> when you look at what happened with I and girl Lala, it's very hard to ignore the bigger picture. This isn't just about two people. It's about how the internet has quiet trained us to treat abuse like entertainment. Loud arguments, public breakdowns, cruel jokes, violence behavior, all of it gets rewarded. People just keeps watching. The curom doesn't care if something is harmful. Cares if people stays glued to their screen. When bad behavior brings views, followers, and money, it stops feeling like a problem to the person doing it. In a Kane's case, the chaos didn't slow her down. It helped her grow. Every Bob just brought attention. More attention brought more relevance. And that creates a dangerous mindset that if something is working online, it must be fine. And when people laugh, defend it, or treat it like a reality TV. It sends the message that nothing needs to change. Some people even hype it up calling these relationships entertaining or iconic instead of recognizing that what they watching is real people being harmed. You know what's so funny? In the month of December, her so-called boyfriend that turns her [music] into a punching bag spends $60,000 of her own money in a month. So, he's taking from you, taking your money, and also giving you blues and punches. Can't make this [ __ ] up, >> bro. She's so cap, bro. Yeah. 7K is crazy. >> My spending as of 1229 monthly spending, this is $62,000 in one month. Do you get what I'm saying? So it's like he that's why I keep saying you need to go back to work because spending 60k in a month >> the [ __ ] who do you think I am like who do you really think I am to have 60 bands just out >> but no for real that's not >> I just got one question like I just seen a video E saying that Chris spun 60k in one month and he need to get a job go back to work or whatever. What I don't get is first of all, if you in a relationship and one of y'all is the bread winner, why you not putting your partner on to make money, too? Why you keeping all the money or you the only one putting in all the effort to make all the money and your partner is helping you spend all the money? That's one thing I don't get. It's nowhere in hell I'm in a relationship and I found a way to make money or my partner found a way to make money and my partner don't put me on or I don't put my partner on. I'm not going to be the only one in the relationship being a bread winner. I'm going to make sure we both bringing income. Like I see a lot of these people in the industry doing it and then when they break up somebody leave broke with nothing or the other. It's just nowhere in hell I'm f to just sit there and see my partner bring in all this money or make all this money and I'm not going to get a piece of the pie. I'm gonna tell my partner, "Hey, put me on or what I need to do to, you feel me, start my shit." Or if I know my partner got a big ass platform and they making money on it, I'm going to start me a platform. I'm going to do what I got to do to make my [ __ ] pop, too. Like why you want to be the only one being the bread winner and your partner spending all the money or got to always use your money to go to the store and buy [ __ ] Like I just don't get it. I'm not going to be in a relationship with nobody who ain't going to put me on and I know they got the plug to it. And if you is in a relationship and your partner lazy and don't want to get in the field to make the money, maybe need to leave that person alone because it's just knowing in hell one person making all the money get up every day to make all the money and the other person just spending all the money. Like that [ __ ] just crazy to me. The scar part is literally how normal it starts to feel especially for young people. If you're constantly seeing relationships where screaming, control, and humiliations are framed as love, you start thinking that that's how relationships are. Over time, people stop reacting with concern and they get used to it. They assume things will calm down. Then there will be another video tomorrow where everything looks fine again. And there is this activist called Hope Gizel. She's also like a trans woman. And she has spoken about this exact thing. She spoke about how constant exposure just make people to stop seeing the danger. When abuse is followed by another post, another joke, another outfit, it tricks people into thinking that it's not that serious. But real life doesn't have edits or reset buttons. Abuse doesn't disappear because someone goes live acting happy the next day. It doesn't cancel itself out because the comments moved on. In real life, abuse usually gets worse. a built it escalates and when it's ignored, excused or encouraged by an audience, it becomes even much more dangerous. There is also another message hiding underneath all of this. When abuse is treated like normal relationship drama, it teaches people that staying is expected and leaving is dramatic and that setting boundaries is you just doing too much. It teaches people that asking for help is weak. Gorella appeared to stay in a situation that was clearly dangerous, partly because it looked normal. The people she admired were in toxic relationships too and they made it look like passion or intense love that creates false hope. I never knew girl Laala till she died and then I saw that she was trending. The idea that loyalty fixes abuse that love means suffering and that if you just endure it things will change. Most of the time they don't. This doesn't just affect one type of person. Anyone can fall into this by way of thinking. But some people are already much more vulnerable, especially those who are more likely to experience violence or be ignored when they speak up. When abuse is constantly softened or joked about online, it becomes harder for people to recognize why they in real danger. Social media platforms can't keep pretending that this is just internet drama. Rules don't mean much if they are barely enforced. Taking down one post or banning one account doesn't help if the same behavior keeps coming back and making money. As long as abuse is profitable, it will keep showing up and people aren't off the hook either. Every view still counts. Watching out of curiosity still feeds the system. If people actually care about the creators they follow, the response to seeing abuse shouldn't be jokes, memes, or popcorn emoji. It should be concerns. It should be calling it what it is. And sometimes the healthiest thing to do is to stop watching completely. Abuse again is not love that turn messy or love that is disguised as being messy. It's not drama. It is not content. Treating it like entertainment just only comes with real consequences. And the longer we keep pretending otherwise, the more people get hurt. Conclusion: Domestic violence is not entertainment. [music] When you step back and look at everything together, it's so hard to ignore the pattern. What happened with I and what happened with Girl Lala are connected. Girl Lala was killed by her boyfriend when they were arguing in a car and there were multiple gunshots too that was heard in the neighborhood and he shot her multiple times. She has he he not she he has been denied Bill and his this is so heartbreaking. His conviction or his sentencing is coming like sometime this year. But anyways, um, what happens to Ekane and what happened to Geral Laala? They are so connected even though their stories ended very differently. One built a brand by turning chaos into content and the other one lost her life after being surrounded by a culture that treated abuse like something normal, even something that was funny at times. But shows how easily real just gets blurred into entertainment when people and attention are involved. Abusive relationships are not okay not to live in. They're not okay. They're not something that you should live in. They're not something that should ever be excused. And definitely, they're not something that should be broadcast for likes and laughs. What looks like harmless drama on [music] a screen can leave deep emotional damage and influence people watching to accept similar treatment or push situations towards real violence. The internet has a way of making everything feel distant, like it's all just a story. But the consequences are real and also people who consume this content have to take some responsibility too. No amount of virality should ever make abuse acceptable. Watching, sharing, and hyping up toxic behavior only keeps it going. Instead of treating toxic love like a genre of entertainment, there needs to be more honesty and more push back. Violence should definitely be called out and it should never be excused. Ham should be taken seriously and not turned into clips. Your Lala's story should sit with people not as gossip, not as a cautionary tale to scroll past, but as a reminder that what gets normalized online doesn't stay online, follows people into their real lives. Domestic violence is never love. It's never passion. And no one should ever feel like stay in an abusive relationship is normal, expected, or something they have to endure. Love should never have to hurt you. and abuse is not content and it's time we stop treating it like it's entertainment. So guys, that brings us to the end of this video. Thank you guys so much for watching. If you watch to the end, bye. Um, this case is quite sad. Um, I I just cannot believe like that people just like watch this and just like allowed it to just play [music] out for entertainment purposes. is very disgusting and it just makes me like question a lot and the morality of people even people who literally watch all this happen um in real time like sometimes I think like when I was like researching this case I was like what what like how do people just see this and just let it go like even my research for a not going to her page to watch her videos I refuse to add to that basically I'm just going to put videos I just saw videos of people like literally like talking about it or like clipping it or like you know just clipping this where people just put videos. There's even like on YouTube I watched like videos where people someone posted her um live stream that's like the information I'm going to use when it comes to ekin and also there are some articles online and people just talking about her generally on Tik Tok because I refuse to allow my data feed into such nonsense. I refuse it. Abuse is never normal. Abuse should never be be considered as something normal. It's not okay for a man to put his hand on a woman and it's not okay for a woman to put a hand on a man. Abuse should never be considered normal. Never. If you're in an abusive relationship, please seek help because it's not normal. It is not normal. I cannot stress this enough. It's not normal. And physical abuse type of abuse. There's mental abuse. There's psychological abuse. There's financial abuse. If you think that you're being abused, speak to someone and make sure that is like if you're thinking you're like, I think I'm being abused but I cannot place my head if I am. Most likely you are. But if you're not sure, speak to someone and seek help. We should never normalize abuse. When the abuse become content, it was things that were hidden. And don't get me wrong, whether abuse is hidden or not, it does not make it right. Doesn't make it right. Nobody deserves to be abused. Nobody deserves to have their hand put on them by somebody else. Nobody deserves to be killed by their partner because I don't understand the concept of you saying that you love somebody but you hurt them. Can someone explain that logic to me? How do you claim you love someone but you're hitting them over and over again? Can someone explain that to me? Because it's it's something that I genuinely don't understand. I cannot claim to love my girlfriend and I'm hitting her every time I see her. How is that love? Please, how is how is that love? Like literally I feel like normalized a lot of things on social media that we become desensitized to things that we should literally clock as red flags. I feel like social media has decentized a lot of things that people can be rude in real life not that all this is social media. I hope girl laala rest in peace and again if you're anyone who worships een or you're a fan of a get better role models that's all I have to say get better role models. Abuse is not sexy. Abuse is not content. Abuse should never be excused. Okay, but that brings us to the end of this video. Thank you guys so much. If you made it to the end, I really do appreciate each and every one of you. Thank you for making it to the end. Orion, do you want to come? My cat has been disturbing. But anyways, guys, thank you so much for stopping by. I really do love and appreciate each and every one of you. Until next time, leave a brown emo. No, leave a yellow emoji. Uh, leave a yellow emoji. Thank you guys so much. 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